LOVE not shown is LOVE unknown

 HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL 

When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it.

Below are some of the evidences...

✅ ATTENTION 

When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love. 

✅ CARE

When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you. 

✅ COMMUNICATION 

When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight. 

✅ GIVING 

The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving. 

✅  SPENDING TIME TOGETHER 

When someone loves you, they will desire and long to spend time with you. When you love someone, you will desire the presence of the person. Anyone that doesn't like spending time with you, may not love you. 

✅ SACRIFICE 

The ultimate prove of love is sacrifice. Love is not self-seeking. Love always spends itself at the expense of the beloved. Someone that is not going out of his way once in a while to make you feel good, may not love you. Love is sacrificial. 

✅ PATIENCE

When someone loves you, they will patient with you. They will be patient with in your weaknesses, down time, etc. 

✅ PROTECTION

When someone loves you, they will try to protect you from harm, they will ensure that you are safe. 

✅ KINDNESS

When someone loves you, they will be kind to you. Love is kind. Harshness is a sign of hatred, resentment or anger not a sign of love. 

✅ VULNERABILITY

When someone loves you, they will vulnerable to you. They will loose their guard, put down their defence, they will dismantle the barricade and they will show you the weak side of them hoping you don't hurt them.

✅ SUPPORT

When someone loves you, they will support you in whatever capacity they can.They will support your dreams and aspirations, they will support you financially, spiritually, emotionally and otherwise.

✅ INVESTMENT

When someone loves you, they will invest in you to make you better than they met you mentally, emotionally, economically etc. Love builds up.

So these are some of the signs that shows someone loves you.

How Do You Know That The Love Is Real?

✅ Give It Time

I read something from Reno Omokri recently that made a lot of sense to me. In fact, it put what I want to say in perfect perspective for me.

He says, "No mask can be worn forever. Give people time. Their mask will fall. Until then, don't marry or do business with them. Stay loving, but be alert."

You cannot cover pregnancy forever, with time it will be revealed for all to see.

So, give the person time. He says he loves you with all his heart, you are his morning star, sunshine, sugar in the tea, butter in the bread and his one and only woman, there's no problem. Give it time.

When he or her asks for sex and you tell him or her , that’s there will be no sex until marriage, will he or she still continue to love?

When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, maybe you are critically ill, will he or she still continue to love?

She says she loves you, you are her world and you mean everything to her. Without you she cannot live nor survive. You are her oxygen and life-force. There is no problem. Give it time.

When you loose your job or suffer a major blow in your business, will she or he still love?

When you are broke and unable to provide for her financial needs, will she or he still love or disappear with another guy?

Don't rush things. Give it time. Time is a revealer. Time will reveal if the love is real or not, with time you will come to know if the person is saying the truth or lying. Love perseveres and love is long-suffering. Stay loving, but be alert.

Love is what love does but LOVE not shown is love unknown.

Love is law, but marriage is business, marry the wrong one and it is bad business.

This is how you forgive the person who broke your heart. 

You forgive them by giving yourself time to heal. This doesn’t happen all at once. This doesn't happen overnight. It’s a slow progression. You take two steps forward and four steps back. Sometimes it won't make sense. But you grow a bit stronger, a bit more resilient, every single day. Even if you don’t always see it. 

You forgive them by focusing on yourself. Stop pouring your energy into toxicity. You unplug. You unfollow. Practice self-care. Reread your favorite books and go out with your best friends, laughing and remembering how good things can be when you surround yourself with positivity. Tell your broken heart it’s okay to take a break to remember how to smile again. 

You forgive them by removing yourself from the situation. The longer you dwell in it, in the heartache, the more it festers. It's difficult, but you have to leave it alone. Honor your emotions. Honor your feelings. But don't keep circling back. Don't keep obsessing over what occurred. Imagine it like a balloon. Let it float away. Tell it goodbye. It can't hurt you now. 

You forgive them by accepting what they did. That doesn't mean the pain is erased. That doesn’t mean you suddenly think it’s okay or you've let them off the hook. It doesn't mean they aren't responsible for their actions or that you've forgotten what happened. It just means accepting what's done is done. It means admitting there is no rewind button. You can only move forward. 

You forgive them by regaining your life. Because there is so much more than just one person who broke your heart.